The secret bag of truthThings Men wish Women know about the Way they Think.

Day in, day out. As far as I know, there are two genders in the world right now. The male and female. Better called, the man and the woman. We almost cannot do without each other. But as close as we can be, either as friends or love partners or husband and wife. It’s really hard to coexist with each other. On the male side, there are things he wish a woman know about the way he thinks. Are you ready? Let’s go.

Men don’t like to be advised; Scary, isn’t it?

They just tell you because they feel you should know. It doesn’t mean they don’t love you. That’s the way they have always being. That is the reason why your man will be hell-bent on that poor decision, you see. He will be willing to drive 200 kilometers in the wrong direction to satisfy himself rather than taking that 5 minutes drive you suggested earlier. Instead of you say

you should really do this”.

Say

I think this is a possible way out”.

You might be surprised to see him follow you like your favorite pet when you least expect. You did not command but persuade him. Don’t advise but persuade men. Trust that works.

Men have standards, respect them

You must have heard the saying “Love is the greatest need of a man“. It is in every way true but not always. There are other things that are highly needed, too. In other words, they need respect. They place standards on themselves and they expect you to do so, too. They feel important when you respect them.

You see the joy in them when you give them some respect. An example of standards; while some men would not mind if you give them a knock on their head, others will freak out. Some might not like a knock in front of their friends. That’s them for you. They have a set of standards that they expect, so ensure you serve them accordingly.

Men respect standards, get some

You just heard that right. You must have heard “be submissive”, every time. But this is me telling you to get some standards. Being submissive is good. To have some standards is important. Both are vastly different. Men need proves to show that they should respect you. You don’t have to take unnecessary shits and put yourself to discomfort to earn their respect.

Sadly, they don’t know if they hurt you or not, most times. So it’s better you don’t get inconvenient because of them. If you don’t want something, kindly say or reject it. Don’t take it all in and expect them to change. They might never change. You just have to truncate the change.

Men are not the same

In contrary to the opinion that men are the same. Men are not the same. They are plain human beings. They are born of different parent, races, religion, and tribe. The only similar thing amongst them is the “XY chromosome“. The word “male“. They don’t like being compared to other guys. I guess you don’t like it, too. They believe they are who they are not what you think they are. They may have similarities, agreed.

But they don’t behave the same way. While 80% of guys love football. The rest 20% don’t. Or you are not aware that some guys don’t know who Lionel Messi is. Funny, isn’t it? While some guys tend to eat much, like a pot of rice. Others don’t like to eat that much. So you may wonder why your recent almost forcefully eats and your ex is a damn foodie. Don’t try to manipulate him. That’s just the way he is. That doesn’t make him less man, he is just being himself.

Men don’t need some love that you need and show

Have you ever wondered why men don’t show you some love that you need? Or you don’t like the fact that he does not appreciate some love that you show him? It’s because the way you love is different from the way they do. While you might like someone to dry your tears always everytime you cry.

He might get pissed off if you pity him too much. The way he express his love is different from the way you do. The way he thinks of love is not the same as yours. So, don’t try to have him love you the way you love him. Because you can never love him the way he does, too. Love is love. Love is different from love. Expression is the difference.

Men needs love, reciprocated

If a man loves you, he will want to die to satisfy you. As long as he can die for you, he wants his love reciprocated, too. “What is taken for granted will eventually be taken away“. Did I just confuse you? I said earlier that the way you express love is different. Yes, it is. But you should still love the way you can love so he doesn’t feel rejected. When he’s appreciated, he will continue to love you more and more. So, love should be reciprocal.

Men like you to show interest in them

Yes, everyone likes it when they see people show interest in them. Men love it that you show interest in them. Support his favorite football team even though you dont like football. Don’t make him look like a fool with what he likes because you don’t like it. But they are not your makeup products, or hair products. I know. But if you show up in what he likes, he will be willing to show interest in what you like, too.

Men likes to be strong

Men are strong or they appear strong. Either of the two. That is his ego. He can live and die for it. You might love someone to come down to your level. To do it the way you do. But it can not happen. You are not weak but he is stronger than you. He is a risk taker and a concern bearer. Once you tell him about something that cause you pain, a man is always ready to chase it away.

That is a real man for you. That is what happens when you say “baby, am just telling you” and he’s already called your landlord. Sometimes it may annoy you to think he treats you as though you are a child. But that is how they express their love. They see you as one who needs tender care .

Men don’t like to be worried

Have you ever poured out your mind to your man and he said okay? Yes, it doesn’t feel good. You don’t like intonation. As much as they are willing to help face challenges. They’re human beings, too. They don’t like to have worries, so they “fix it“. Men are blessed with this “fix it” attitude. Most of them don’t have an ear to listen.

They just want to fix everything you say. At such a moment, you won’t finish your discusssion, I promise you. Immediately he try to “fix it”, you are already mad at him. Then you both stop talking. It hurts you and he might not feel too good as well. Instead, implore him to listen to you. Then you can hear each other peacefully.

Men listen to men

See, most times that men don’t listen to their wives, guess who they listen to. Their friends. I know this hurt women but it’s the truth. Why do they do so? They want their ego polished. Most men feel inferior when they follow their wives advises. Especially when they tell their friends and they’re being joked at.

Only few men feel free to entertain the opinions of women especially their wives or girlfriends. I can’t really point what makes them behave so. It has been proven that it’s maturity, age or exposure. Either of all, it still points that men differ from one another.

Men are too strong-willed

We’ve discussed about how men don’t listen to advises/ like to be controlled. In real sense, no one likes to be controlled. Either male or female. But it is more flexible in ladies than guys. You will be wondering why your man is so determined to do what he wants to do, that much. While you would have changed your mind if persuaded.

That is because he is more rigid in his decision than you are. This does not make you less wise but natural. It’s how you are. You can only change if you want to. Comparing a male child to a female child, you will see that the latter obeys more quickly than the former. Most men are wired with strong will from birth.

Men only think of now, at times

If you have planned a vacation with your boo before. You might have an idea of what am trying to say. You will see him take care of the needs of present, only. He will forget the winter and take only shorts along. Instead of you get mad, just help him out. That does it all.